@wisdomfrombelow, very well said.
Reminds me of one sister telling me constantly that if I didn't want to let my dog sleep in bed with me, then that meant that I don't like dogs. Just because I SAID I love dogs, and put water out for HER dog on a hot day when she neglected that little detail, didn't mean anything. The overriding factor was allowing dogs to lay right next to me.
Who made her the authority with the right to decide which actions had what meaning? Which is what I wonder about all varieties of social movements.
Who gives individuals the authority to decide and proclaim who is a racist and who isn't, based on nothing but their own preferred assumptions. One woman told me I have no right to speak, because I have never been abused just because of the color of my skin. Well how does she know that? And why would any assumption of hers be a valid reason to deny my right to speak? She is just going to decide that I'm a racist.
What would PROVE me to be a racist?